Let's speak candidly. I don't know what on earth I'm talking about.
I muse about life, and things that we can all identify (and hopefully) agree with. But when it comes right down to it, I believe in
Universal Truth Number Forty
You cannot claim to really have lived life... until you've felt lost.
I know... this truth is not going to be one that's universally agreed upon.
But here are my thoughts.
I've experienced, participated in, lived a lot of things. But living what I'm living right now... has made me really realize how beautiful life is.
Not because of the problems I'm dealing with. Not because I know the problems will make me a better and a stronger person (which, they will) ...but because in dealing with such turmoil, I know that someday I'll stop hurting.
I will not only stop hurting, stop feeling lost and confused, but will be legitimately happy.
And when that happens, when I'm no longer lost, confused, hurting, etc ...I'll be able to truly relish where I'm at.
If my happily ever after was as simple as falling in love and avoiding all the hard work that my life is now... well
1) I wouldn't be as ready to handle the future stresses life will hold
2)I wouldn't truly enjoy my happily ever after like I know that I will.
A ramble-riffic musing. But all true.
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Monday, November 22, 2010
thanksGIVING
Maybe it's all the Thanking that I'm doing.
Maybe it's all the people thanking me.
I can't really be sure...
Regardless the reasons, I'm going to share this universal truth with you.
Universal Truth Number Thirty Nine
Sharing gratitude helps both you and those you're thanking.
Thanking someone
A) lets them know that what they're doing hasn't gone unnoticed
B) very often, helps people to continue doing what they're doing -- knowing it's appreciated
C) makes those you're thanking feel good
D) makes YOU feel good
Thanking someone gives you an opportunity to reflect on who you are, how those people have helped you become who you are, and the person you'd like to become.
It makes you more grateful.
It honestly just feels fantastic.
So moral of this blog post -- get out and thank someone today. That is all.
Maybe it's all the people thanking me.
I can't really be sure...
Regardless the reasons, I'm going to share this universal truth with you.
Universal Truth Number Thirty Nine
Sharing gratitude helps both you and those you're thanking.
Thanking someone
A) lets them know that what they're doing hasn't gone unnoticed
B) very often, helps people to continue doing what they're doing -- knowing it's appreciated
C) makes those you're thanking feel good
D) makes YOU feel good
Thanking someone gives you an opportunity to reflect on who you are, how those people have helped you become who you are, and the person you'd like to become.
It makes you more grateful.
It honestly just feels fantastic.
So moral of this blog post -- get out and thank someone today. That is all.
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Musing a Direction
I have dozens and dozens of drafted musings.
I won't post them... because they're not yet resolved. I don't know what all the answers are, I just know a lot of the questions.
April of this year I mused the Following:
I can't really be sure, but I feel there's a point in almost every person's life in which they can see their future stretching out before them. They can see what lies ahead, if they just stay on the path they're currently on.
I experienced just that, or something akin to that. A moment when I saw two options, two paths, stretching out before me. The words of Robert Frost's "The Road Not Taken," floated through my mind. I sat staring both paths down - they were as clear to me as if they had been actual paths beneath my feet.
I saw husbands, careers, jobs, babies. Each different. Each beautiful in their own right.
It was a moment that just asked me to choose -- to continue down the path I was on, or to step onto another. I thought desperately, "Which is the path less traveled!? Which is the right choice?"
This remained saved as a draft because I didn't have the answers. I had
Universal Truth Number Thirty Eight
We all have a purpose.
But that's all that I had. The thirty-eighth universal truth... and a whole lot of questions.
Additionally, universal truth number thirty eight reminded me that there had to be more behind my decisions than just "being happy where I'm at."
I certainly was happy. I loved the boy I was dating. I loved everything about my life.
But I know, and I knew, that there's something bigger in store for me.
There is something in this life that I can accomplish that no one else can... because no one else on this planet is quite like me.
This is true for everyone. We all have a purpose. There is something wild and wonderful each of us can do with our lives... that no one else can.
And I wanted to know for sure... was I making the right decisions for my wild and wonderful one thing? Would I find my purpose? The one thing, the one person, the one difference I could make.
I still don't know what that one thing is.
But I KNOW that I'm on the right path. That the right decisions up until now have been made... as well as the next few to follow. So I'm sharing this with you now.
I hope it helps with your search for truth and personal purpose.
May you find your one great thing.
I won't post them... because they're not yet resolved. I don't know what all the answers are, I just know a lot of the questions.
April of this year I mused the Following:
I can't really be sure, but I feel there's a point in almost every person's life in which they can see their future stretching out before them. They can see what lies ahead, if they just stay on the path they're currently on.
I experienced just that, or something akin to that. A moment when I saw two options, two paths, stretching out before me. The words of Robert Frost's "The Road Not Taken," floated through my mind. I sat staring both paths down - they were as clear to me as if they had been actual paths beneath my feet.
I saw husbands, careers, jobs, babies. Each different. Each beautiful in their own right.
It was a moment that just asked me to choose -- to continue down the path I was on, or to step onto another. I thought desperately, "Which is the path less traveled!? Which is the right choice?"
This remained saved as a draft because I didn't have the answers. I had
Universal Truth Number Thirty Eight
We all have a purpose.
But that's all that I had. The thirty-eighth universal truth... and a whole lot of questions.
Additionally, universal truth number thirty eight reminded me that there had to be more behind my decisions than just "being happy where I'm at."
I certainly was happy. I loved the boy I was dating. I loved everything about my life.
But I know, and I knew, that there's something bigger in store for me.
There is something in this life that I can accomplish that no one else can... because no one else on this planet is quite like me.
This is true for everyone. We all have a purpose. There is something wild and wonderful each of us can do with our lives... that no one else can.
And I wanted to know for sure... was I making the right decisions for my wild and wonderful one thing? Would I find my purpose? The one thing, the one person, the one difference I could make.
I still don't know what that one thing is.
But I KNOW that I'm on the right path. That the right decisions up until now have been made... as well as the next few to follow. So I'm sharing this with you now.
I hope it helps with your search for truth and personal purpose.
May you find your one great thing.
Sunday, September 19, 2010
A Tale of Two Truths
Here's a confession.
I love Harry Potter. A lot.
Here's another confession.
I feel like I've learned a lot from those books.
At the close of the Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, Dumbledore taught Harry a universal truth.
I'm going to number it Universal Truth Thirty Six
It's our choices that determine who we are.
It's the decisions we make, big and small, on a day-to-day basis that determines who we are today; who we will be tomorrow; and who we'll have become a year from now.
That being said, another piece of children's literature taught me
Universal Truth Thirty Seven
If you don't know where you're going, it doesn't much matter which choices you make.
(The Cheshire cat taught this truth to Alice.)
Know the person you'd like to become. Know where you'd like life to take you.
It will back up the choices that you're making with direction and meaning.
If you don't have meaning backing your decisions, then just as the Cheshire cat taught us, they don't really matter.
You can become any person at all, if you don't have a preference on what type of person you'd like to become.
I love Harry Potter. A lot.
Here's another confession.
I feel like I've learned a lot from those books.
At the close of the Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, Dumbledore taught Harry a universal truth.
I'm going to number it Universal Truth Thirty Six
It's our choices that determine who we are.
It's the decisions we make, big and small, on a day-to-day basis that determines who we are today; who we will be tomorrow; and who we'll have become a year from now.
That being said, another piece of children's literature taught me
Universal Truth Thirty Seven
If you don't know where you're going, it doesn't much matter which choices you make.
(The Cheshire cat taught this truth to Alice.)
Know the person you'd like to become. Know where you'd like life to take you.
It will back up the choices that you're making with direction and meaning.
If you don't have meaning backing your decisions, then just as the Cheshire cat taught us, they don't really matter.
You can become any person at all, if you don't have a preference on what type of person you'd like to become.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Learning from Trials and Errors
It's funny, at time life is everything you'd like to be... and then some.
Other times it's nothing you'd wish on even your worst enemy.
What really throws me off is when it's a mixture of both. Some moments are fantastic, fun, and everything I could want them to be... and just moments later, I'm miserable.
No, I don't have a mood disorder. I just got out of a relationship. And it sucks.
On the upside, the roller coaster that is life has taught me...
Universal Truth Number Thirty Five
Nothing in life is perfect.
Nothing in life is perfect, so stop expecting it to be.
If we're waiting for things to be perfect, and all our moments to be just what we want... then we'll never be happy.
Relish in the good moments, learn from those that are bad, and appreciate your life for what it is.
Other times it's nothing you'd wish on even your worst enemy.
What really throws me off is when it's a mixture of both. Some moments are fantastic, fun, and everything I could want them to be... and just moments later, I'm miserable.
No, I don't have a mood disorder. I just got out of a relationship. And it sucks.
On the upside, the roller coaster that is life has taught me...
Universal Truth Number Thirty Five
Nothing in life is perfect.
Nothing in life is perfect, so stop expecting it to be.
If we're waiting for things to be perfect, and all our moments to be just what we want... then we'll never be happy.
Relish in the good moments, learn from those that are bad, and appreciate your life for what it is.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
The Truth that Needs Little Explanation
Care to know how what I've been up to for the last hour and a half?
Yes?
Excellent.
I've been proving Universal Truth Number Thirty Four
There's little more addicting than Tetris.
I feel like little to no more explanation is required.
Also, I'd really like to get back to playing.
Yes?
Excellent.
I've been proving Universal Truth Number Thirty Four
There's little more addicting than Tetris.
I feel like little to no more explanation is required.
Also, I'd really like to get back to playing.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
What is Love? (baby don't hurt me)
Today I was told that love is the most overused four letter word in the English language.
I love cheese.
I love sleeping in.
I love spending time with you.
Love is more than something you enjoy doing, more than a preference.
But what is love?
Can you claim love when you've claimed it dozens of times before? Can you claim it when you cannot define it, can't explain what it means when you say it?
Can you claim it at all? Does it even exist?
I'm scared of love. Not of loving someone, but of not knowing for sure what love is. I feel I have a definite hold on it... then a family member, boy, friend will throw something into the mix that I hadn't previously considered.
If I cannot define love, does it exist? Is it more than a feeling? Is what you experience and call love different with every person you experience it with?
If so, who has decided to make love this all-encompassing, all-inclusive term.
Let me tell you what I know and believe about love, starting with:
Universal Truth Number Thirty Three
Love is treated too lightly
That's not to say that we take love too lightly when we show it for our fellow man. Just that we should recognize that it's kindness and compassion we're showing. Not love.
Love is the glue that holds you to your family, and endears your family to you, when nothing else does.
Love is the power that makes good friends, great. Because, when you love someone, you put their needs before your own.
More than that, being IN love is a combination of chemistry and electricity between two people who love each other like they love both their family and their best friends. Nothing less.
Love isn't the attraction or butterflies that describe lust.
Love isn't the connection between two teenagers who hold hands in the halls of the local high school.
Love isn't what you feel when you kiss someone, or are kissed.
Love is more than just caring about someone, or wanting to have someone in your life.
Love is more than that. And all of that.
It's running to kill the spider when she's standing on the couch.
It's moving plans around so you can spend the afternoon with him.
It's doing something inconvenient, and doing it willingly; because she has plans but still wants to road-trip with you, because he has to get packed within the hour, because this was something that she or he had always wanted.
Being in love with someone means that you would walk through hell itself, if it meant keeping that person beside you. Anyone thinking less is kidding themselves.
Love is more than just a strong regard or feeling. It's a set of feeling that are so overwhelming you worry if any one person should be allowed to feel all of this happiness, this excitement, this peace and contentment all at once.
And you worry because as much as you thought you couldn't love that person more, you wake up the next day to find yourself proven entirely wrong.
THAT is love. That's part of what it means to be in love.
I can't define it. Can't describe it any better.
But you'd better believe I can tell the world at large they're using the word too often. And that they're using it wrong.
Love means something. Unless you're willing to imply all of the above when you say, "I love you," think twice before those three words escape your lips.
I love cheese.
I love sleeping in.
I love spending time with you.
Love is more than something you enjoy doing, more than a preference.
But what is love?
Can you claim love when you've claimed it dozens of times before? Can you claim it when you cannot define it, can't explain what it means when you say it?
Can you claim it at all? Does it even exist?
I'm scared of love. Not of loving someone, but of not knowing for sure what love is. I feel I have a definite hold on it... then a family member, boy, friend will throw something into the mix that I hadn't previously considered.
If I cannot define love, does it exist? Is it more than a feeling? Is what you experience and call love different with every person you experience it with?
If so, who has decided to make love this all-encompassing, all-inclusive term.
Let me tell you what I know and believe about love, starting with:
Universal Truth Number Thirty Three
Love is treated too lightly
That's not to say that we take love too lightly when we show it for our fellow man. Just that we should recognize that it's kindness and compassion we're showing. Not love.
Love is the glue that holds you to your family, and endears your family to you, when nothing else does.
Love is the power that makes good friends, great. Because, when you love someone, you put their needs before your own.
More than that, being IN love is a combination of chemistry and electricity between two people who love each other like they love both their family and their best friends. Nothing less.
Love isn't the attraction or butterflies that describe lust.
Love isn't the connection between two teenagers who hold hands in the halls of the local high school.
Love isn't what you feel when you kiss someone, or are kissed.
Love is more than just caring about someone, or wanting to have someone in your life.
Love is more than that. And all of that.
It's running to kill the spider when she's standing on the couch.
It's moving plans around so you can spend the afternoon with him.
It's doing something inconvenient, and doing it willingly; because she has plans but still wants to road-trip with you, because he has to get packed within the hour, because this was something that she or he had always wanted.
Being in love with someone means that you would walk through hell itself, if it meant keeping that person beside you. Anyone thinking less is kidding themselves.
Love is more than just a strong regard or feeling. It's a set of feeling that are so overwhelming you worry if any one person should be allowed to feel all of this happiness, this excitement, this peace and contentment all at once.
And you worry because as much as you thought you couldn't love that person more, you wake up the next day to find yourself proven entirely wrong.
THAT is love. That's part of what it means to be in love.
I can't define it. Can't describe it any better.
But you'd better believe I can tell the world at large they're using the word too often. And that they're using it wrong.
Love means something. Unless you're willing to imply all of the above when you say, "I love you," think twice before those three words escape your lips.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
