relationship rant

My thirteenth universal truth lead directly into the fourteenth.
When someone doesn't like you as more than a friend, be wary of allowing yourself to sink feelings of sorrow.

It's true that each of us will hurt someone else, break someone else's heart. There's no way to avoid it. Those feelings of sorrow then, are good to bear in mind. (so that you will be kinder in telling someone else that you don't like them like that - because you know how it feels)

But those feelings of sorrow are something you should never allow to get a hold on you. That feeling of sadness (regardless of whether it was caused by an uninterested guy or a messy breakup) is not your fault.

Sometimes it's easy to think the feelings of sadness are our fault -- some sort of failing in what we did or who we are. This simply is not the case. It's neither party's fault when something doesn't work out between a guy and a girl. It's simply that the two parties are in two different places in their lives... and what they want and feel they need is different than what would be possible through the combination of the two individuals.

Never let someone else make you feel that your worth is diminished. There's someone out there who will love you unendingly. Someone who will love you so intensely that not only will it make up for all the bad you've had to deal with, you'll forget about the bad completely.

Universal Truth Number Fourteen
Your heart belongs to someone you've yet to meet

There's no reason to worry, as Death Cab once said, someday you will be loved.

Isn't it About Time?

Boys are ridiculous. That in and of itself could be a universal truth.
Don't worry boys, girls are ridiculous as well.
Guys and girls are so often unwilling or unable to convey when they like someone... consequently guys and girls then have to play a guessing game to determine whether or not the person they like, likes them back.

But, never fear, I've found a universal truth to help combat how ridiculous boys and girls are.

Universal Truth Number Thirteen
Never waste your time on someone who doesn't have time for you.

If a guy or a girl doesn't care enough to ask you out, to text message you, or set up a time to hang out -- then he or she doesn't care enough.
Forget about him or her.
It's not necessarily an easy thing to do if feelings are involved, but it's necessary. Someone who's not willing to devote time to you, isn't worth your time.
As you move on, two different things will come of it,
1) He or she will do the same
(And you've lost nothing)
2) He or she will see that they're losing something important ...and will subsequently devote more time to both you and the relationship
(Giving better balance to your relationship)

There's nothing to fear if you apply this logic to your relationships -- it's a fantastic predictor of whether someone likes you, and how much.

Welcome Back

School last year ended, and school this year started... and yet the blog remained unchanged.
Why? You might ask (go with me on this one -- go ahead and ask)

Your first thought may be that I've plum run out of musings, I have life figured out and no need to ponder any longer.

I hate to admit it, but the opposite is true. I've been dealing with more confusion and frustration than ever before in my life (given, it's not been that long of a life just yet).
I'm ashamed to admit, that I allowed myself to get to the point where I was consumed with my life and my decisions to be made. I dwelt on all that was wrong rather than embracing all that could go right.


In the past year I learned (the hard way)

Universal Truth Number Twelve
Smile A Lot

Life is too short to put up with the ache -- too short to sink into the difficulties dealt to you -- too short to not smile.
Because as you smile, you fight back against all the bad that is attacking you. As you smile, you tell your problems that you're too tough to give in.
Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with recognizing how incredible you are for taking on so much -- but when you smile in the face of all that you're taking on, you're that much more likely to conquer it.

Pull yourself up by your boot straps, appreciate all the wonderful things that are going on (or at least the terrible things that aren't) and smile a lot.
It won't be easy. At times it won't be fun.
But when you refuse to let go of the little joys in your life, eventually the little joys will regain their hold in your life, growing into full-blown bliss.

Put it on my List

One time called January, I didn't write to you at all...
Call me a slacker, cause that's what I am.
On an upside, no one reads these much anyway, that's not why I started writing this. I don't have a blog to share all that's been happening with me. I didn't even start writing it to muse (although, muse I do)
I'm writing this blog because It's part of my perpetual to do list. At the risk of copyright infringment, a bucket list.
I have an ongoing list of things I want to do before I die. From kissing through a chainlink fence, learning the dance to thriller, and builing an igloo ...to writing a blog and climbing out the window of a car and in the sunroof.

Universal Truth Number Eleven
Life's better when you have a purpose.

Make yourself a list. Live life to the fullest, not because it's the only one you've got- but because you've got it.
You have your own life to lead, your own choices to make- and it's up to you to make choices that will let you be who it is you want to be.

(You may not want to be the guy who jumps out of airplanes or the girl who makes out on pool tables- but each of us has things we've always wanted to do; even if we've never spoken them aloud)