I've found perhaps the most important universal truth.
Universal Truth Number Forty-Two
Joy comes through understanding.
As you learn and then apply what you've learned to future endeavors, it makes you happier because it yields better outcomes.
I've been able to apply a lot, and will continue to look for life lessons to learn and apply.
With that, a promise I'll continue to observe life's lessons and muse on them, I leave you to your own devices.
I'm taking a leave of absence from college and everyday life -- subsequently I'll also be taking a leave of absence from this blog and sharing my musings.
Talk to you July 2012
With love,
College Girl
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Saturday, January 1, 2011
The Latest Relationship Insights.
I try not to put too much of what's going on with me and my relationships within this blog.
Boys have come and gone. As a rule: I try not to post on who they are... or the relationship we had.... but what they taught me.
Let me give you a sort of chronological run-down:
FIRST
There was this boy.
A boy that has been my friend for years.
This boy, that has been my friend, started to seem like he could be something more.
As he and I moved in that direction, I found out what things had changed, and what had not.
The facts were these:
I loved laughing with him. But another boy makes me laugh harder.
I love smiling with him. But another boy makes me smile more frequently.
I know I'm important to him, but I was more important to another boy.
I know this list is vague, and means nothing to the majority of you. Here's what it meant to me.
I can't be in a relationship unless I'm completely happy.
No one should settle for less in a legitimate relationship.
I want to marry someone who WOULD walk through Hell for me. Not just offer, or claim that he would.
(You know what they'd serve there? Deviled Eggs. (Joke courtesy of JD.))
NEXT
I found myself being treated the same way by this guy that I've been treated in the past.
I was already feeling like a relationship wasn't going to happen... then I was being treated like neither myself nor my friendship was something he really valued.
Last
I learned Universal Truth Number Forty-One
Actions don't speak louder than words, they have the entire say in a relationship.
It doesn't matter how nice or great a guy is.
Doesn't matter
-how often prettily he talks about you and your future with him
-how sweetly he can complement you
-how often he says he 'wishes he had more time for you'
If you're not being treated well in the relationship. If you're not given the time and attention you deserve. JUST WALK AWAY.
That last bit was in all caps because if I could, I would shout it slightly at you.
As girls, we all want to fix the situation.
Don't.
You don't want someone to give you time and attention because you're always asking for it... and reminding them that you're important. I say this for two reasons:
1) If you have to ask for time and remind them that you deserve the time... you're not as important to them as you deserve to be.
2)It. Won't. Last.
Find someone who genuinely wants to give you time, because he enjoys time with you. Find someone who treats you like you deserve, because he loves the way you treat him.
Boys have come and gone. As a rule: I try not to post on who they are... or the relationship we had.... but what they taught me.
Let me give you a sort of chronological run-down:
FIRST
There was this boy.
A boy that has been my friend for years.
This boy, that has been my friend, started to seem like he could be something more.
As he and I moved in that direction, I found out what things had changed, and what had not.
The facts were these:
I loved laughing with him. But another boy makes me laugh harder.
I love smiling with him. But another boy makes me smile more frequently.
I know I'm important to him, but I was more important to another boy.
I know this list is vague, and means nothing to the majority of you. Here's what it meant to me.
I can't be in a relationship unless I'm completely happy.
No one should settle for less in a legitimate relationship.
I want to marry someone who WOULD walk through Hell for me. Not just offer, or claim that he would.
(You know what they'd serve there? Deviled Eggs. (Joke courtesy of JD.))
NEXT
I found myself being treated the same way by this guy that I've been treated in the past.
I was already feeling like a relationship wasn't going to happen... then I was being treated like neither myself nor my friendship was something he really valued.
Last
I learned Universal Truth Number Forty-One
Actions don't speak louder than words, they have the entire say in a relationship.
It doesn't matter how nice or great a guy is.
Doesn't matter
-how often prettily he talks about you and your future with him
-how sweetly he can complement you
-how often he says he 'wishes he had more time for you'
If you're not being treated well in the relationship. If you're not given the time and attention you deserve. JUST WALK AWAY.
That last bit was in all caps because if I could, I would shout it slightly at you.
As girls, we all want to fix the situation.
Don't.
You don't want someone to give you time and attention because you're always asking for it... and reminding them that you're important. I say this for two reasons:
1) If you have to ask for time and remind them that you deserve the time... you're not as important to them as you deserve to be.
2)It. Won't. Last.
Find someone who genuinely wants to give you time, because he enjoys time with you. Find someone who treats you like you deserve, because he loves the way you treat him.
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